This is Us: The case for/against KaToby in season 3

THIS IS US -- "Number Two" Episode 209 -- Pictured: (l-r) Chris Sullivan as Toby, Chrissy Metz as Kate -- (Photo by: Ron Batzdorff/NBC)
THIS IS US -- "Number Two" Episode 209 -- Pictured: (l-r) Chris Sullivan as Toby, Chrissy Metz as Kate -- (Photo by: Ron Batzdorff/NBC) /

Kate and Toby have overcome difficulties before but season three seems poised to challenge KaToby more than ever before. Will the couple survive?

KaToby could be in trouble.

Throughout the first two seasons of This is Us, the relationship between Kate and Toby has been one of the best parts of the show. Their love hasn’t always been easy but it has weathered the storms. Despite some difficulties, the two characters tied the knot in the season two finale. However, this happy moment was quickly soured by a preview of the future.

After the wedding, the episode flashed forward to a grim scene. Toby was in bed, notably depressed, with Kate feebly trying to comfort her new husband. In this scene, Kate said the doctor wanted to increase the dosage of Toby’s medication. With one line, the show planted the seeds for a problematic future in KaToby’s relationship.

The season three premiere, “Nine Bucks,” only reaffirmed these concerns. Toby offers to cut down his intake of his antidepressants in order to increase his sperm count. Plus, as Kate struggles to get the doctor’s approval for IVF, Toby is clearly not on board. He knows that the situation will likely end in failure, which could prove disastrous for the happy couple.

Fans will have to wait to see how the drama unfolds as the season continues. But, at least for now, let’s look at the pros and cons of KaToby’s continued relationship, given the addition of new challenges into its dynamic.

The Case For KaToby

Love conquers all, right? A sound, healthy relationship can survive, and even thrive, when obstacles and difficulties must be dealt with. We have seen Kate and Toby cope with various problems. Toby has tried to help Kate manage her weight in a healthier way, and he has tried to improve her self-esteem.

Kate has stood by Toby’s side throughout his own struggles with weight. Plus, Toby has dealt with his problematic past and it didn’t derail KaToby’s relationship. Toby and Kate have proven they can deal with adversity and help each other cope with challenges.

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The Case Against

Love isn’t always enough. No matter how much Toby loves Kate, he can’t cure her self-esteem issues, nor can he solve the various difficulties Kate faces as a result of her weight. Eventually, the relationship could become create a toxic situation; Toby could become frustrated with his inability to genuinely help Kate. As a result, it’s certainly possible that Toby will spiral and get worse.

Similarly, Kate can’t automatically cure Toby. He has to deal with his depression and the challenges he faces. It’s not fair to Kate if she’s expected to constantly fix Toby or save him from himself. These aren’t the signs of a healthy relationship.

Time will tell how KaToby deals with the challenges of Toby’s looming antidepressant withdrawal and Kate’s hopes of having a baby. Most viewers will hope the relationship can survive but everyone should prepare for the worst.